Yes, I am a girl.
However, there are many things that girls do that I simply do NOT understand, and that make me feel awkward when I am pushed to become a part of. Through nearly four years of living in dorms full of girls, I have made many observations that frustrate me.
Here are a few off the top of my head:
1.
Having "girls only" dinner parties. The attendees at these dinner parties tend to be a bunch of self-domesticated, average, single females. These are the girls who are essentially (though secretly) bitter that they don't have a man. Therefore they get together to cook themselves a "fabulous" dinner, just to show themselves how much they don't need a man! They even go the extra mile to dress up for themselves and their amigas. Ha! That'll show em.
2.
Attending fancy school banquets and dances as a group. This could go along with number one, simply with the motivation. These girls don't NEED a date to go to banquets. They have each other! Besides, when all the girls get all dressed up together, they are much better at helping out with eachother's hair and makeup. Who needs guys? Note: This does not apply to the "group dates" that include members of both sexes.
3.
Mandatory hanging out and traveling in a pack. Really? Must we always go everywhere together? It's all well and good to want to hang out with your friends, but you can't get passive-aggressively angry with me if I've already made other plans! Also, some of us girls make other plans on purpose, simply to avoid the herd dinners and hangouts. Too much is too much!
4.
Badmouthing. Now this I can't stand. Most people would say they want friendships and relationships based on honesty. But I'm serious. When you hang out with a group of girls, and all they do is badmouth the one girl who's not present, you must wonder what they say when you're not with them. These are not friends, these are gossips, who only maintain conversational friendships with one another in order to have something to rave about when that girl leaves the room.
5.
Taking self-photoshoots, editing them to the max, and posting albums full on facebook. Basically, it's insane that these girls spend hours making themselves look good on a computer. Poor viewers! They see these photos and think the girl actually can look that good in real life. It's all about the poses and the editing. Let's just say you don't want to see the 200 unedited, unflattering photos that were taken at the same time those 10 super-sexy-gorgeous ones did. Good luck distinguishing reality, folks!
To sum it all up...
photo of me, and how I feel when trapped among various girl-group-situations
photo of me, and how I feel when trapped among various girl-group-situations
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Perhaps the content of this post is why I am adamantly against the false-Christianity that ruins the hearts of children of our nation, even when they have the most well-meaning intent. Our culture is selling us God, and almost none of us have Him. The result is that we are without peace, without love, and at the mercy of our flesh (myself included).
Ive been studying the prophecie in the old testament lately and I have been shocked to realize we are exactly where the Bible says the end is and how horrific it will be, EVEN WITH the knowledge of God (Thus God's coming wrath). I was shocked by the detail of what it says, and yet so many within Christianity will say yes..this is the end times, etc...but we have such disassociated expectations in regards to how HARD it is during this time to be civil, let alone godly.
The appearance of "godly" in our culture is largely a whitewash. I imagine we would all love to be able to edit our lives. I would. I definitely would. I also wish I had the power to be perfect and good and kind all the time.
Here is the point of the cross. Jesus Christ came to us full of grace and truth, no passive-agressive anything.
Jesus still rocks.
Haha I agree with all of these except the first two! Lol, I would love to be invited to one of those "girls only" dinners and it's always more fun to go to dances with a bunch of girlfriends :). I especially can't stand #5 though. Ick! It bothers me more when I see my fourteen-year old niece following in those footsteps with provocative pictures on myspace. Sigh. What happened to our "children"?
Girls don't really do that stuff, do they?
@letseewhatthiswilldo - Yes, Jesus does rock.
@music_of_the_heart08 - Heh, the girls only stuff can be fun when it's done out of the right motives... I've been invited to many that are basically just girl-power type things. Ehhh. lol.
@JosephParsons - I'm sure these things are well known enough. But unfortunately it still keeps going on. Won't they ever get it? :P
And all people have things about them that suck, you know.
Except me. Im the only one that is totally cool all the time, and everyone just loves me loves me loves me. :0)
@letseewhatthiswilldo - Of course. Yet, sometimes 4 years of living with and observing the same type of behavior can grate on a person. :)
Why are you different than them?
@letseewhatthiswilldo - I'm not, in that I'm not perfect and definitely can irritate people too. However, I tend to not get into these particular things I mentioned.
Well, you seem to me to have a mature personality. You seem fairly unique, which is good..its just means that you fit in less. I dont fit in anywhere either. I think much differently than social current of thought, and I seek to avoid it. In school I was considered very much in the wrong place because I thought critically about the curriculum (pointed out its flaws and outright deceptions) rather than just going with the flow of the shaping, so I was the enemy.
Clear thinking and reason and standing for the truth made it very hard for me to feel welcome there, or anywhere. And what's worse is I am human, with flaws and shortcomings, which become the leverage for the ego to deflect the points I made (ad argumentum hominum) and gave reason to reject or push away, etc.
Anyways, the point is this, I understand what it means to see differently than others around you, not because you're better or anything, but because you want better for yourself and others.
I understand. Read Hebrews 11:16.
@ELIZerson - They?
Hahaha...
Nice disassociation
@JosephParsons - I try... haha =P
@kaos_calle - Thanks! Love the mini =)
haha, i like the trapped picture... but who is the guy in the background?
@lenybobsyouruncle - That's definitely my brother... haha.